True happiness is something we all want to achieve. But it just seems that there are always obstacles in our way. Sometimes we don’t know how to be more positive.
But the good news is, that we CAN do something about these obstacles that just seem to keep coming. Yes, there are situations that can have a huge effect on our emotions, but it’s up to us how we handle the situations.
I was in an unfortunate situation recently, and what made it different was how I handled it. I’m a pretty big worrier, so I wanted to see what would happen if I didn’t worry.
My boyfriend was scammed out of over $600 on eBay. We live together, so yes, we do share bills and money.
When he told me that, my initial reaction was to freak out a little. I thought “OMG what are we going to do?”
But, as the day went on I thought about it and knew that we were going to be okay. Yes, $600 is a lot of money, especially if you don’t make that much. I knew that we would have to cut costs on other things to make up for the money.
I wanted to worry about it and I could have stressed about it until we got an answer from eBay about the dispute. But, worrying about the outcome is going to change absolutely nothing.
We tried everything we could possibly think of. We never did get that money back, unfortunately.
However, we learned a good lesson, and will avoid similar situations in the future.
But I did do one thing throughout the ordeal.. I stayed positive. Even when I wanted to scream and think about how everything else is going to go wrong because we’re out $600.
I’m proud of how I handled that situation, and it made me realize that not every not so great thing that happens is the complete end of the world.
Sometimes positive thinking takes practice, as with anything if you’re not used to doing it. But just know that all negative thoughts can be overcome! Think positive about thinking positive! 😀
Here is what you should STOP DOING, and what you should START DOING in order to live a happy, healthy, more positive life.
Stop negative self talk.
Now is the time to stop bringing yourself down. End thinking negative thoughts or speaking negative words about yourself.
When those thoughts creep into your head, try your best to catch yourself in the act.
Ask yourself, “Do I truly believe what I’m thinking?”
Remind yourself that what you’re thinking is not true, and that it’s just a thought that can be dismissed.
Dismiss the thought, and move on. Replace it with something positive.
Start saying affirmations.
Saying affirmations daily can help you be more confident and give you boost in self esteem.
Keep affirmations in places you can see them, like taped to your bathroom mirror or your makeup table. Keep them on the fridge or on your desk.
Say them EVERY DAY.
Negative self talk will be a thing of the past if you are constantly speaking to yourself in a positive way.
If you’re not happy with the way something is, then change it. Don’t complain about it.
Did you know that complaining actually wires your brain to think negatively? It’s just like a habit. Habits are formed in the brain because of repeated behavior. Complaints and negativity go hand in hand, so eliminate them both together.
Start being grateful.
Be thankful for what you have! Even if you don’t have everything you want, appreciate what you do have.
Tell your loved ones that you feel blessed to have them in your life. Take a few moments to appreciate your home or your car.
Make a list of things that you are grateful for! It will be uplifting and make you feel happy with what you do have instead of complaining about what you don’t have.
There is NO SENSE in worrying about something you cannot change. The outcome of whatever you’re worrying about will be the same regardless of worry or no worry.
If you can change it, then change it! But remember that you can’t control everything, and sometimes things won’t always go as planned. Just accept that and move on.
Write down something positive about each and every day. Even if it’s the smallest insignificant thing. I’m sure when you’re having a rough day, reflecting on that one time when you caught every green light on the way home will make you smile.
If you’re not sure how to journal, try these prompts to get you started, and then the rest will flow naturally!
The best thing that happened to me today was:
What made me smile today:
How I made someone else smile today:
My favorite part of today was:
What I’m looking forward to tomorrow:
Keeping a journal filled with positive thoughts will help you change your way of thinking.
Don’t compare yourself to other people. Other people are not you and you are not someone else. If you’re feeling envious about something someone else has achieved, sit back and think about WHY they have achieved that. Did they work super hard and actually EARN it? Well, you can too!
So stop comparing yourself to others who are at completely different places in their life. Not one journey is the same!
Start setting goals.
If you’re not where you want to be in life, set your own goals! Write down what you want to achieve and exactly WHAT you need to do to get there.
Set a time when you want to reach that goal, and map out your path to success.
Your dreams don’t work unless you do!
Changing the way you think to be more positive will hugely impact your life!
You’ll feel better, not only mentally, but physically too. You’ll handle stress better, and lessen the physical effects of stress. Thinking more positive also rewires your brain to continue to think positive. It’s a win-win situation.
How have you improved your life through positive thinking?